Hey guys! This week’s version of College Mythbusters is brought to you by me, Morgan, giving some tips about relationships! (Remember session one from Andrew Wilson?)
Everybody has expectations about dating and relationships in college, and I’m here to tell you that you’ve probably got a lot of things wrong.
I know I did.
DISCALIMER: Not all of these myths are directly from my personal thought process or experiences. Okay got that covered.
Myth #1: You’ll meet your husband (or wife, if you’re a guy) on the first week of school
Well, some people do, but some people don’t. So don’t make that your expectation or else you’ll be disappointed. The great thing about experiencing college life is making friends before actually dating. Remember, you have four years to be at a university, so meeting your soul mate on week one shouldn’t be your goal. Honestly, trying your best to date right off the bat is no fun. I made tons of friends during my freshman year of college, and that’s going to be important for my Myth #4.
Myth #2: You’ll maintain all your friendships even if you hang out with your significant other 24/7.
If you want to hang out with your boyfriend or girlfriend all the time, that’s up to you, but that can lead to a pretty sad social life. It’s fun to hang out in groups, so even when you start dating someone, be sure to maintain your friendships, especially the same-gender friendships. Spending a lot of time with any person, no matter how much you like them, can get really old!! You’re going to need support and encouragement from your friends no matter who you date. Make sure you spend time with your friends to let them know that they are valued!
Myth #3: First Date = Marriage.
Wanna know the best way to get rid of a guy? Plan your marriage on the first date. Even though a date can successfully lead to marriage, let dating run its course. Have fun! Talk about your interests and goals for the future, and if the next few dates go well, future plans about marriage and life will come up naturally! Remember, after just one or two dates you’re not tied down ’til death do you part! Don’t stress, let your relationships work out as you seek the Lord on your own and with another person. He will guide you!
Myth #4: Friend Zone is Permanent
Making great friends your first few years of college is really important. Some people have an idea of meeting a guy or girl, falling in love at first sight, dating, getting married, having lots of kids, and living happily ever after (Don’t say you haven’t thought about it). But don’t rush. While I’m a firm believer in love at first sight, I am a bigger a believer in Anne of Green Gables’ idea of falling in love with your friend:
“Perhaps, after all, romance did not come into one’s life with pomp and blare, like a gay knight riding down; perhaps it crept to one’s side like an old friend through quiet ways; perhaps it revealed itself in seeming prose, until some sudden shaft of illumination flung athwart its pages betrayed the rhythm and the music, perhaps . . . perhaps . . . love unfolded naturally out of a beautiful friendship, as a golden-hearted rose slipping from its green sheath.” (L.M. Montgomery, Anne of Avonlea)
So after that really sappy quote, let me just remind you that your friends matter. Don’t try to date every one of your friends (that’s super annoying), but be open to the fact that God might be growing you together in friendship with someone for the purpose of dating in the future.
Peace and Blessings,
Morgan, junior blogger, relationship mythbuster